As a coach, I’m often thinking of what we can learn if we open our minds and objectively view the hands we are dealt in life. And as a former professional poker player, I often think about this in the context of the games we play.
What’s the true power of belief?
Right now, invest 2 minutes and listen to two-time Academy Award-winning actor Anthony Hopkins’s thoughts on the power of belief:
“We tiptoe through life hoping to safely make it to death.” – Unknown
Fear, worry and angst have been conditioned into you. You’ve been pumped full of it. By media. By marketing. Even the people who love you.
You’re wing-clipped by caution. You may even think fear is “good” for you.
That it keeps you safe and has all kinds of hidden, mysterious values.
If your happiness depends on anyone or anything, that’s not happiness.
That’s pressure, anxiety and tension.
If you don’t appreciate me, that’s your problem.
If I need your approval, that’s my problem.
“Often it isn’t the mountains ahead that wear you out, it’s the little pebble in your shoe.” – Muhammad Ali
We all know fear is a core emotion designed to make us aware of real or imagined threats.
What is less known is that fear is an emotion consisting of specific components without which it cannot exist.
Just like water ceases to exist if you remove one of the atoms in the H2O-molecule, fear can’t exist without the following three components:
“It has to be a habit, you can’t call it an activity that you’ll get to.”
– George Jedenoff
It’s been 45 days and I haven’t missed a single morning exercise routine.
On the contrary, on most mornings I wake up excited to do it.
Better yet, I don’t see any end in sight.
How did it happen?
“Never affirm or repeat about your health what you do not wish to be true.”
– Ralph Waldo Trine
Your mind is your superpower. And I mean that literally.
For example, what do you think would happen if you visualized flexing your biceps as hard as you could 5 times per week for 12 weeks?
Many years ago, a man was sitting in quiet contemplation by a riverbank when he was disturbed by a beggar from the local village.
“Where is the stone?” the beggar demanded. “I must have the precious stone!”
The man smiled at him. “What stone do you seek?”
There is an old Zen story about a king who wanted to teach his people a lesson. He placed a large boulder in the middle of the main road, completely blocking entry into the city. Then he hid and observed their reactions. The king watched as person after person came to the impediment and turned away or tried halfheartedly before giving up.
When he was 14, he received a C-minus in music. His teacher specifically commented that he “had no aptitude for singing.”
A senior monk, named Tanzan, and a junior monk, named Ekido, were traveling together through the countryside. They soon came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross, they saw a young woman also attempting to cross.
Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer said, “Maybe.”
Mastering the inner game is the key to sustainable personal and business success. It’s possible only by a deep understanding of what the inner game is all about and what success within it really looks like.
Curing your intention deficit disorder is key to realizing your fullest potential.
It is possible for you to become a much more powerful creator. But it’s only obtainable through real inner work.
As an example, a CEO client of mine who was also acting as the head of sales complained that he hadn’t closed a new deal for several months. He believed this problem was due to their product and marketing departments.
Your self-concept is probably the most important aspect of your life.
Why? Because it includes everything you believe is true about you. Everything you believe about what you’re capable of and what is possible for you. Your self-concept is visible everywhere in your life; it generates your current results.
Ben is 30 years old and the CEO of a high-growth and venture-backed Canadian tech start-up.
As I studied him deeply when speaking to me in our first session together, I noticed that he was yawning frequently. He had dark bags under his eyes. During a pause in our conversation, I asked him about it:
“All things are created twice. There’s a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation to all things.” – Stephen R. Covey, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”
Thoughts create things.
The device you are using to read this first existed as a concept in someone’s mind. These words first existed in mine. Take a look around and literally everywhere you’ll see ideas that originated within a mind.
“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.”
– Wayne W. Dyer
There was once a man named Ali who owned a large farm with many orchards. Ali was perfectly content with his lot in life until one day, when a local priest told him how the Almighty had created diamonds, and how one stone the size of his thumb was worth enough to purchase an entire country. As the story goes, Ali went to bed a poor man. He sold his farm and set out to seek a fortune in diamonds.
“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michaelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
There are no musts in life. Only choices and consequences. Everything you do (or don’t do) is a choice.
So, before taking action on something ask yourself – “Do I really want to do this?”
You don’t have a time management problem.
You probably think you do, but the reality is that everyone has the same amount of time. In fact, and you may want to take a deep breath here: you have plenty of time.
What you may have is an “integrity” problem.